Engaged couple spark fury over ‘aggressive’ wedding invite dress code

An engaged couple have caused a stir after sending out wedding invitations with an ‘aggressive’ dress code request. 

Guests were asked wear ‘black cocktail attire’ and ensure they wore no signs of any colour or white. 

The bride and groom outlined the dress code on the invitation and following Q&A section. They also asked guests to confirm they’d seen the request in the digital RSVP. 

The tactic was quickly dubbed as ‘aggressive’ and ‘unnecessary’ by dozens after images of the invite were posted to a popular Facebook group. 

‘We would love to see our friends and family dressed up with us. We are requesting black cocktail clothing for our wedding. PLEASE ONLY WEAR BLACK COLOURED CLOTHING!’ the couple said. 

‘Please avoid clothes including white which are reserved for the bride and groom. In addition to wearing black, please no jeans, shorts or athletic clothing.’

‘Men please wear close-toed shoes for the ceremony and reception.’ 

The RSVP also included a box for guests to tick, confirming that black would be worn. 

The first option read: ‘I’m wearing all black! No white undershirts for men, no white or coloured detailing for women, strictly all black clothing.’

The second option read: ‘I’m unsure about my outfit. I do not want to stick out and would like to ask more questions regarding what I plan to wear.’

Many shared their thoughts on the strict request, with many likening an all black dress code to the attire worn at funerals. 

‘I bet this is an outdoor summer wedding in some barn with a tent to the side. No thanks,’ one wrote. 

‘Nope. That’s far too specific. No accent colors at all? And they’re SO ADAMANT! I love black clothes, but take your aggressively goth demands elsewhere,’ another said. 

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A third added: ‘A few people wearing a little black dress to a wedding is fine, but when everyone does it I’m definitely going to think funeral when I see it.’ 

‘I get having a dress code, but when the wedding becomes about you to the point of making it difficult or uncomfortable for your guests, it ruins the entire point of it being a celebration with them, and makes them cast members of your show.’

‘I’m not buying a new outfit for a wedding unless I’m in the dang wedding,’ another said. 

One admitted he’d decline unless there was a guarantee of free alcohol.